In today’s world it is often difficult to know who we really are. Every day we are being told what we should like, what we should want and who we should be. We are pulled in many different directions and try to live up to many different expectations, whether we put them on ourselves or are from those around us. Society as a whole has created molds of what a successful life should look like and many of us struggle to fit into this mold. Even when we do, often times we are not content with it. Because of these various influences, we can lose ourselves and have a hard time understanding who we actually are.
Many of us do not take the time to question if the life we are living is true to who we are rather than a manifestation of expectations and fears. When we do take a moment to reflect on this, often it is after many years of unhappiness and frustration. The reasons for this vary but ultimately fear surrounds most of them. It takes a large amount of courage and confidence to decide that you are not what others would like you to be and to live your truth. However, the risk is worth it. The only way to true purpose and happiness is to be who you truly are, not what you believe you should be.
If you feel that this applies to your life, that maybe you are not living your whole truth, than there are steps you can take to move in that direction.
1- Stop Judging. This applies to judging yourself as well as those around you. When we judge others it is generally because there is insecurity within us. Also, the simple act of judging others causes us to fear being judged. It is extremely difficult to stand up for who you are if you are afraid of others judgments and if you are not accepting of who you are. Next time you catch your thoughts drifting to judgments quickly assess the root cause and replace the judgment with acceptance and love.
2- Listen to yourself. If you don’t ask yourself who you really are, what you really want and who you would like to become than you will never know. The key here is to be completely honest with yourself and listen to your gut. If you head says “I want to be a doctor” but your gut cringes, it is most likely someone else’s dream for you that you are repeating. Remove everyone’s expectations and just listen.
3- Meditate or Journal regularly. Getting in touch with who you are requires you to spend time alone getting to know yourself. When you meet a new friend you have to spend time with them to know what they like, what they don’t like, what their values are, etc. If you are disconnected to who you are then you have to reintroduce yourself. Meditation or journaling is the best way to be completely honest with yourself without fear and judgment.
These are three steps to start with. Although they may sound simple, they are not easy and take time and dedication. You will never find true peace or happiness if you are not living your truth. So go ahead, take some time to get to know yourself and start being the beautiful person you truly are.