I want to know who you are. I don’t want your name or any particular labels that have been given to you (unless they resonate), but what your soul would say if it were asked.
We often hide parts of who we are. We grow up putting on label after label so we can describe ourselves in a way others understand. As we go through this process, we often start eliminating those that don’t seem appealing or acceptable to others. For example, we may hear a child say “I am beautiful” but it is far less common to hear an adult say it. This is something many take out as they begin to judge themselves or are judged by others. It all starts when we are really young and before we know it, we forget what some of these things are.
We begin to define ourselves by what we do or who we are in relation to others. Very few people start a conversation with a complete stranger with anything other than what we have chosen as circumstances in our lives such as a job, our marital status and if we have kids. A few other “likes” or “dislikes” may come up but that is as deep as it often gets. Sometimes we make lifelong friends with people who know everything about what has happened to us or things we have done, but we never disclose who we are. It just never comes up.
The reason this is a challenge is it is impossible to honor, respect and love yourself if you have no idea who that is. How can you pursue things that serve you, serve your soul and your ultimate happiness if you don’t know what they are? One reason that people sometimes struggle to find happiness is they are living a life that doesn’t serve their happiness. Getting perspective is sometimes all we need to know what changes to make and get closer to happiness, even if it as simple as starting a new hobby. Going through the motions of life you may never take the time to ask yourself so I am doing it for you.
Sit alone, with no one providing their input and opinion and write on the top of the paper Who am I? Start the next line with I am… and list out everything that comes to mind. Don’t judge what you write or feel guilty about those that you leave off that “should” be on it. You may find things start to list out that are things you always wanted to do but hid from out of fear or judgment. You are already all those things; you just haven’t lived the experience yet, accept them as truth.
If you find harmful or hurtful words come up then you can uncover areas that need your compassion and love. These are beliefs you have that can be holding you back from your dreams. Working through them so they are no longer on this list is critical in moving forward and uncovering self-love.
Allow the words to just come to you and don’t force them, you may be amazed at what you learn about yourself. Below are pieces of my list, my husbands and other people I know who have done this exercise.
I am a writer. I am a healer. I am divine light. I am a friend. I am a musician. I am full of energy. I am peaceful. I am joy. I am a spiritual guide. I am awesome. I am a mother. I am a husband. I am an animal lover. I am a student of life. I am a teacher. I am an artist. I am crafty. I am love. I am a leader. I am a speaker. I am blessed. I am living gratitude. I am a dancer. I am a dreamer. I am a gypsy. I am beautiful.
Who are you? I would love if anyone wants to share some of theirs here; I promise you will be met with only unconditional love and support. If not here, than share with someone you are close to. The more you vocalize these, the more they become part of your daily life and you will be astonished on how amazing that can be.