Most of us have had a moment when we feel like we have been living on auto-pilot. Suddenly you feel completely disconnected from your own life and don’t really recognize it. Some call this mid-life crisis, some go into career changes, and some watch this moment pass by and continue to live in misery. Regardless of when you have this realization, it is a sad moment when suddenly you look in the mirror and aren’t sure who you are anymore. Not sure how you got to this place you are in your life. Not sure the last time you truly felt joy. This moment is likely to cause complete panic. Suddenly life feels short and there is a sense that we are suffocating. This is not a great place and it doesn’t necessarily come only once in a lifetime. The secret is to take control of your life before you get to this place. Wake yourself up now and integrate the changes necessary to avoid this.
Although this may not sound easy, avoiding this moment in your life really doesn’t take very complicated steps. Here are some suggestions you can integrate into your life daily to keep awareness and happiness the center of your life.
- Honor your passions– This is key in staying connected to who you are. We all have passions that range from huge things that we can make careers of, to small things that bring moments of joy. These passions can be as simple as watching sunsets or as extensive as volunteering with an organization that your heart feels connected to. Every time there is something that peaks your interest or makes you smile, you owe it to yourself to explore it further. A good place to start is making a list. Think of things you enjoy or did when you were a kid. Build in a routine to experience these things as often as possible. If you feel like you don’t have time, start with the small things. Playing with the dog, taking a walk, smelling flowers. We all have small things that feed our passions and integrating them will help you stay connected to who you are.
- Take a moment– Every day, take just a moment to take a few deep breaths and reflect on what you love in your life. Slowing down for just this moment every day will help keep the balance. This can be while you are in the shower, while you are driving or right when you wake up or go to bed. Whatever fits into your life, taking a moment to reflect on all the gifts you have helps in making sure you are being present in your life.
- Prioritize your time– Usually when we turn on auto-pilot it is because we are no longer in control of our lives, instead it has taken control of us. It is easy to get into this trap with over committing, not managing our time, not building in breaks, etc. We don’t see that we have a choice, and get into the trap of “I have to…”. Having the courage to prioritize what you are spending your time on and say no to the things you can’t fit in will be important in keeping control of your choices.
Start with these three steps and you will begin to feel more connected to who you are. Remember to slow down and enjoy your life! 🙂